Sex is one of the first things I think about when I wake up in the morning; and, one of the last things I think about as I fall asleep at night.

Having sex, not having sex, masturbating, getting caught masturbating by someone, wondering if I have time to masturbate right now, pr0n, erotica, the need to buy a new vibrator because I wore my old one out, pleasing my fella… These are all among the deep esoteric issues that a girl like me considers from the confines of her bed, wrapped naked amongst the sheets. Perhaps while curled up sanguinely in the arms of her lover.

Love is something I rarely think about. I’ve been in love: both the requited & unrequited variety. While it’s nice, it’s also painful. But, then again most things worth having in life are as such. I recently came to the conclusion that the best way to find love is to not look for it at all – people have been telling me this for years – it is quite true. No sooner did I say “Pshaw, love-schmove” than did I find someone amazing. Granted we’re not “in love” yet; but, I love hanging out with him, I love his friendship, I love making love to him and I love how content being in a relationship with him makes me feel.

The Internet: Ah yes, these here innerwebs. Many of us spend a goodly portion of our lives computing; answering emails; IMing with friends or co-workers; shopping; surfing; lurking.

Over the last ten years the Internet has become a replacement for 1:1 interaction. In a lot of ways this is good: it opens up the global community, provides users with more options and sources of information, and connects people in disparate parts of the world together in bonds which can often be stronger than those you feel towards the people you know in RL or “meatspace.”

It is also bad in that it removes people’s abilities to have conversations or do things w/out gadgets in between them. It warps our ability to relax; most of us compulsively checking our email and iPhones and other type tech toys from weekends, vacations, honeymoons, hospitals, etc.

More than that, though: the Internet has opened up a whole new world for people to explore sexuality, relationships, love, dating, kink, fetish and pr0n from. What ever you like, who ever you like – you can find a place that has that on these here innerwebs.

This is what I intend to write about in this column. Sex and love in the cyber age.

You may ask yourself, “Who the hell is this Esmeralda character to think that her opinions on sex, love and life online counts for diddly squat?” Well – I’m like you. An enigma, wrapped in a mystery, wrapped in a riddle, shrouded in a clue… I am a feisty woman. One who is on the tipping point of being a complete girl geek; and, one who is what some bloggers call “sex positive.”

I prefer to call myself “try-sexual” – because, if I can, I’ll try it at least once.

Moreover, I’m not afraid to talk about sex openly in a biweekly column on BitchBuzz.

I hope you enjoy reading this column as much as I’m going to enjoy researching and writing it!