Why We Love Orgasms

By Liz Abinante

Let's be honest, orgasms are awesome. Really, why do we need to discuss it any further? It's like asking someone why they don't like unicorns, puppies, kittens, or other adorable creature that you can't help but love. But orgasms are more than just moments of indescribable pleasure. They have amazing benefits, and not to mention they're one of women's best weapons against the shit the world has to throw at us everyday.

Cramp relief: I'm not the only person who has claimed that orgasms (singular or plural) can help relieve menstrual cramps. Of course, you're not always in the mood to have an orgasm when you're dealing with menstrual cramps or your period. Some people swear by PR-hyped drugs like Midol, and others, like me, swear by pain relief through euphoria.

It's something men will always be jealous of and fascinated by: I have not met a single man who has not been intrigued by the female orgasm. At one point, every man I know has asked me to describe what it's like to have an orgasm. Of course, the more you try to describe it, the more they get confused, and the more demanding they become. I guess show and tell is a viable option here.

You can have them alone, with a friend, a lover, or a toy: And, if some are believed to be true, someone you totally despise. There are a lot of things you can do with different people, and orgasms are definitely one of the top 5 reasons to get to know a wide range of people. By yourself, you don't have to give, just get. With multiple partners all promises of the traditional "give and get" scenario are thrown out the window. Orgasms can even be different with different people. I don't think I've ever heard a better argument for multiple sex partners than that right there.

But please, use a condom (or other protection).

They come in different shapes, sizes, and frequencies: Some lucky women can have orgasm after orgasm, while others only have a few a year. Few and far between can have orgasms through very precise vaginal stimulation (personally, I'm not a believer of this one). Some women have teeny tiny little baby orgasms, and others have orgasms that last for what seems like forever. Big or small, single or multiple, all women - except for those when some sort of chemical or other imbalance - have the ability to have them as often as they want, without the nasty side effect of chaffing.

Those few moments of calm after the storm: Perhaps my favorite thing about orgasms, other than having them, is the few moments after the orgasm where I feel completely, totally, and utterly relaxed. Of course, it only lasts for a few precious seconds, and then I'm back to worrying about the day, but it's still amazing to get those few worry-free moments.

Everyone has a funny "O" face: I don't care if you're Laura Bush or Jenna Jameson, your real (or fake) "O" face is hilarious - just look at that picture!

So go home, go in your private office, and get down with it ladies. There's no time like the present!

POSTED IN: SEX
Fri, 16 Jan 2009 18:15 (GMT+00)
8 Responses
1.

"Big or small, single or multiple, all women - except for those when some sort of chemical or other imbalance - have the ability to have them as often as they want, without the nasty side effect of chaffing."

Yeah, sure. Thanks for adding pressure on those who haven't worked out how. Orgasms are really great and can't get too much praise. But implying there is something wrong with people who can't have them as often as they want, is not really helpful to a LOT of young women.

Neeva
Sun, 18-Jan-2009 12:47 GMT
2.

Neeva. My sympathies. I was once as I think you are now. A bit of a 'late starter' in in the land of oooooooooh. I confided in a friend, who was shocked, sympathetic, and gave me strict instructions to lock myself in my bedroom and not dare emerge until i'd figured out how to make myself tick. Her theory was, untl I had it figured out, how was anyone else goin to manage it?! I cannot thank her enough. Please please, (assuming you haven't done so already) lock yourself away too and devote some serious time and energy to getting on down with yourself. It might take a while, but I'm 99% sure you can do it, then you'll see what all the fuss is about...good luck!

Vona
Tue, 20-Jan-2009 14:51 GMT
3.

Neeva - of course I acknowledge there are women out there who are perfectly healthy and who don't have orgasms. But I wouldn't so so far as to say they can't :)

Liz Abinante
Wed, 21-Jan-2009 07:17 GMT
4.

Neeva,

Once you free your sexuality they will come much easier. Sex and female sexuality have been demonized quite a bit. A very successful control technique. Once you let go of all the bad bs surrounding sex and allow your self to be free I think you may find them much easier to achieve.

Autumn Boh
Wed, 21-Jan-2009 07:24 GMT
5.

Thanks for the advice girls. It's appreciated.
I guess some are slower learners than others, but there's a learning process taking place, no worries. Took me only five years, after all.

It's just that the very question whether there is something wrong with you prevents you from relaxing enough. And that can be quite vexing sometimes.

Liz: "Can't" and "Can't have them as often as they want" is not quite the same.
I absolutely like the rest of your text. It was just that one phrase annoying me. Like you know, when you're still struggling to learn to swim/bike/dance and then somebody tells you how easy it is. No offence?

Neeva
Tue, 27-Jan-2009 21:09 GMT
6.

I completely understand this one!! I have always had some good ones, but I had a hysterectomy last year and to be honest aint been the same since. It used to be "San Andreas Fault" orgasms and now it's more like "Houdini" I get right there and then *POOF* it's gone!! Ok, I've said enough!! LOL

I just wanted to say I do like this article!

Bonnie C.
Sat, 21-Mar-2009 04:53 GMT
7.

Thanks for this great and inspiring article! Orgasms are wonderful! It's the moment when the Earth moves! And the most exciting is that you can experience great variety of them: dream-gasms, breath and energy orgasms, and on the top is the elusive megagasm, it's like a tsunami of all orgasms, but it seems to me that it could be reached just with a help of a sex toy.

agata agata
Fri, 18-Sep-2009 08:23 GMT
8.

ooh!orgasm,oops,so nice i usually have multiple when im usin a sex toy,ooh im jus having it now,its so nice

pammito diszy
Fri, 13-Nov-2009 08:35 GMT

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